If you're participating in Month of Courage and you're stepping out of your comfort zone, don't be shocked if you are generally stressed and panicky. It's hard for our brains to differentiate between good risk and bad risk, and so even good risks can feel life-threatening. Soothing self-talk is a great tool to keep in your back pocket for these situations. Here's the formula I use:
1. Acknowledge the fear. "I know I'm panicking."
2. Forgive the fear. "It's okay that I'm panicking."
3. Pivot back to reality. "I'm alive, I'm breathing, I'm doing just fine."
4. Acknowledge that it's temporary. "I will feel better in a minute."
Do this over and over again until the fear subsides. This way you aren't berating yourself for stressing; you're validating your feelings while acknowledging that everything's okay.
For those of you keeping track, here is my month, in terms of courage, thus far:
April 1: AWP
April 2: AWP
April 3: Navigated LAX and STL-Lambert solo
April 4: Deliberately did nothing (let myself decompress)
April 5: Mapped out my goals for the year
April 6: Did a super hard yoga video
April 7: Started working on new issues at therapy
April 8: Reached out to some people who can give me goal-oriented advice
Are you participating in Month of Courage? I feel a little like I'm shouting into the void here, but that's kind of my tendency anyway, to be really down on myself when I'm just getting rolling. Let me know if you are by tagging #monthofcourage so we can keep up with each other. It's always harder to go it alone. :)